Before I will provide references to another provider, I require a few things.
First, you must have seen me somewhat recently, no more than three months ago.
Second, you must let me know in advance. This isn't so I can choose whether or not I will give the reference, but so that I can be sure that I *do* in fact remember you, and that I am expecting her contact.
And finally, I will only provide a reference for a given client a few times. Usually this will be up to five, sometimes I may only provide as many as three or four. There are varying factors as to why I limit it like this, but the general concept is, by the time I have provided a reference for you that many times, you should have at least one other lady to vouch for you in my place, whom you have likely seen more recently than you have seen me.